I love my short hair. I kept it long for 10 years because my hubby liked it but last year a friend of ours started chemo so I chopped it all off to be supportive. Now that it's gone he likes it....men just aren't very good at change sometimes.
When someone says to me: OMG what where you thinking? I just say, yeah, yeah you just wish you were cute enough to pull off this look!
Ronnie....when you work full time and have a family sometimes you just NEED that extra half hour of sleep in the morning. It has nothing to do with being lazy.A question for women with short hair.?
People are very judgmental these days, from everything from hair to weight, and to whether you have children or not, people just don't know where the latch on their mouth is. Tell her to tell them: My hair is none of your business, it is easy to take care of, and that is all you need to know.'; Hopefully that will shut their trap.
Tell her to say that the only person's opinion on it(besides her own) that matters is the person she is married to. If you don't have a problem with it, and she doesn't either, then she just tell those people to bugger off. If they think hair is what marks gender, that is their issue, not hers.
If you want society to get used to short haired women, you got to wait... but whatever happens, it won't change the fact that a woman with a short hair looks less feminine. That is not a common opinion; nor an acquired perception; it is just how it feels naturally (short hair or long hair is a fashion, yet it cannot reidentify the major characteristics of certain sex, because sex is not cultural; it is biological).
For example: a bald woman would not look feminine, yet this might be the fashion in the future. Now when are you going to be brave and face the world that it just appeals you to look like a boy? come on, I dare you to thump me down!
I guess my comment to her is ';I think its sexy as hell ...';
Remember, people will talk regardless - they'll find something to talk about it if it isn't obvious. Is her skirt to high? Are her pants to baggy? Does she wear just the right amount of makeup?
If it turns her on and it turns you on ... why fix something that ain't broken?
I agree with most of the responses, just ignore those people, they'll find something to talk about regardless. I love how you think it's sexy. Why does short hair mean your all of a sudden masucline? That's a crock of sh*t! I'm sure your wife is beautiful and the short hair really brings her face out. Plus, I'm sure you didnt marry her for her hair, so screw them!
Congrats and good luck!
first of all, anyone that would say that to her is extremely judgmental, joy killing, and harsh. how dare someone make that comment to another person who feels good about a choice they have made? i would say to them, ';please keep your opinions regarding my appearance to yourself unless you want to have an all-out discussion about my opinion of how you look.'; now, if you are present when these comments are made, you should speak up and say something extremely positive about your wife's hair and how much you love it. that should put them in their place. it almost sounds as though these people are caught up in some sort of legalistic religious belief.
My hair was to my collar bones last weekend, and then I got a botched haircut, and not it is about an inch and half below my jawline. I don't mind so much though, because I've had my hair shorter than this before. Most people tell me I look better with long hair, especially my parents. I've never been called masculine, though, and if someone did say I look masculine, I would laugh at them and then ask them ';Now why would you ask me something like that? Do you think I care what your opinion of my hair is? I don't remember soliciting your opinion, so I'd say no, I don't care what your opinion is, now big off.';
Anyway, it is kind of funny because when I was growing out my hair before this botched haircut, my boyfriend made the comment that I am starting to look ';normal'; and that is not a good thing. Many people are threatened by things that are not ';normal,'; and long hair on a female in our culture is quite normal. Personally, I just write those people off as sheep with zero aesthetic taste.
My hair isn't as short, but I do get the ';you look better with long hair'; stuff all the time. Except I really do want my hair to look boyish, so I'm probably not the person you want to talk to! But my response regarding my hair is ';I think it looks cuuute!'; Masculine people don't want to be cuuuute, eh?
My boyfriend has REALLY long hair, like down to his waist, and people always say to him ';When are you going to cut that hair? You have girl hair. You're so feminine.'; Someone even asked him if he was gay (although not in this country XD ). People just have very biased views of what each gender should look like. Somehow you just have to accept that and try not to be offended.
I don't know what to say, but I wouldn't get defensive. I think she should just be honest and comfortable with her responses. You could even help her out by reponding, ';I don't think she's masculine'; or (';short hair isn't for women';) ';It is now!'; Heh. :/
I am in my forties. I have worn short hair almost my entire life and have never heard a soul comment on it.
Different people have different tastes. And some people have no sense of tact when it comes to keeping their insults to themselves.
I have dealt with this for 15 years now and I am not as nice as your wife I tend to get a little b*tchy. My responses vary from opinions are like @ssholes everyone has one, If I wanted your opinion I would have asked for it, What feeling a little insecure about yourself again? Do you think your opinion matters? She needs to tell them frankly that it is none of their business and if they don't like it don't look. The biggest grief I got was from my husband and I told him no matter how short my hair is I still have a lot more than he does so shut the hell up. Ronnie is an idiot and has no clue there is always a dunce in every class.
I had really long hair (below my waist) until last year. I got it cut and donated it to Locks of Love. It was the best feeling! Everyone loved my new hair cut and I got to donate to this really wonderful charity. Now the only reason I am letting it grow is so I can donate it again once I get 10 inches to cut! Short hair can be just as beautiful and feminine as long hair. Actually there are very few stylish cuts these days for long hair. Next time someone makes a comment tell her to tell them that short hair is the thing for 2008...where have they been!?!?! That outta shut em up!
People are stupid.
She could tell them maybe you think it looks masculine but my husband can't keep his hands off me, with this new pixi cut!
Over the years, I've been a ';shortie'; myself. (Let's forget that period in the late '60's -- hair to the butt that had to be ironed!) For the past 40 years it has been short and permed. I cannot imagine a friend making a comment about my hair to my husband or to me. What kind of people do you run with? The only gal who has to like my hair is the one who combs it every day!
Tell her to be who she is. Short hair is great! And for the rude people, she can respond, ';Masculine? I am just secure in my femininity.';
that idea is applicable to people who r brought up thinking short hair is masculine... u cant help with people moulded that way ... i have short hair... i think i look hot... thass all matters to me... but yes i am masculine... but in other ways... like 2 years back i had long hair...many people would have presumed me to be girly... but i juss wanted to look likr Antonio Banderas with a ponytail...;) lolzzzzz... thass the way it is....
dude i know this is a question for chicks but i gotta say i love girls with short hair.
I have short hair and I love it, just for the reasons you mention. Those b/itching are probably just jealous that they can't pull it off.
If you change something... anything, someone will hate it and will say so. I just cut off 13'; to donate it to locks of love. Most people I know made fun of me at some point for it. I just say ';A bald kid now has hair. What you doing to help others?';
I'm sure these men who claim to love long hair wouldn't like it nearly as much if they had to regularly clear out clogged drains or if they keep finding it in their food. The fact is that hair sheds constantly. Now, unless they like seeing these women who have long hair with their hair tied up (which looks a lot like a short haircut anyway) then they need to get over their little fantasies about long hair and look at the realities of keeping and maintaining that hair. I have oily hair so I take a shower nearly every day. Since I have to wash my hair a lot, it would be a pain to brush it and dry it out afterwards if I had it long. Then there are the ugly split ends that develop on longer hair which makes it look ragged and stringy. No, I don't keep my hair shorter to make myself look more like a boy. I do it because it looks better on me and is much easier to maintain. It's also more sanitary because the shorter hairs don't seem to get into everything like long hair does.
Edit: I would like to commend those women who had their hair cut off for charity. That hair is used to make wigs for chemotherapy patients who have had their hair fall out due to raditation treatments. I can't do it personally because I have too much gray in my hair. It's not too obvious but I do have white strands that make my hair look like it has highlights.
Short hair on a woman is not a necessarily an indication of being masculine. Sometimes it just means she is too lazy to maintain her appearance. Long hair, on the other hand, is an indication femininity. Defending a masculine look on a woman says something about the masculinity of a man.
Very few women look good with short hair just like very few men look good with long hair. Women with short hair most of the time look like adolescent boys or just plain feminists. Plus it says they are too lazy to maintain great long hair...
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