For black girls/women with long hair,do u get offended if ...?

do you get offended if people just come up and feel your hair WITHOUT your permission? or tries to call you out infront of the public?



i'm so freakin tired of people doing that. it's like they don't want to face the fact that black girls can rock their own REAL hair. my hair wasn't always this long. my hair is midback now. it took me a year and two months to grow it from shoulder length to this length. i'm only 5'3 so i know my hair looks very long on me. i just think it's so sad that most black girls or women think it's impossible for a black girl like me to grow very long hair. it's VERY possible. most girls have it in their genes,and most girls like me just take our time to grow it.



i even had these pack of black girls,follow me from store to store. wft?!!? is not even that serious. it's not. i rather have them ASK me instead of following me around,insulting me or pull on my hair. i can't even enjoy going shopping or hang out with my friends or go out to eat with my family without someone being ignorant about my hair.

hair grows. it just takes more time for some people. i know some people are curious,but that doesn't mean that they have the right to go in my head without my permission or tug on it.



have any of you ladies ever been through this?



do u have any stories or bad experiences like mines or worse?



thanksFor black girls/women with long hair,do u get offended if ...?
Yes it's very sad we ourselves have been made to believe we can't grow long hair. And if a Black girl has long hair it is weave. If it's a weave or not is nobody's business. And it's not just other Black girls. I have had White guys put their hand in my hair without my permission to feel if I had weave tracks. Just complete lack of home training.



This video speak of this:

THAT'S NOT HER HAIR!:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDoSS_q9y



Freaking Korean woman yelling at her her hair is FAKE!



I love what she says about the two Black girls: ';Don't be jealous of what you can achieve.'; So so true.



And she has another video. There are people in the Netherlands that think Black hair doesn't grow and she totally owns them:

BLACK HAIR CAN'T GROW

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pf1LCBFYV



When my hair was still relaxed my hair grew down my back and other Black girls would say it was becuase I was part White. Black hair can't grow like that, they said. It was frustrating becuase I am part White so I could never convince them their hair would grow like mine but it had more to do with the fact that I hardly ever flat ironed my hair, I treated it like silk and it grew. Now that I just went natural my hair isn't that long but I imagine when I get a huge Afro or long twists there is going to be someone trying to ask me it's a weave.



I once heard someone say and it's very true: Black women's hair is treated like public property. Everyone is fascinated by Black hair. And there are so many myths about it we ourselves have bought into that do make it difficult for some Black girls to grow long hair. Not becuase it can't grow but becuase we treat it like straight hair which is isn't. For example I always endorse natural hair, so many women out there relaxing it and flat iron it daily and don't do deep conditioning treatments, they don't do protein treatments. And then wonder why their hair doesn't grow. Our hair is already very fragile and if you are going to relax it and flat iron it on top of that damage, you need to know it needs even more care.



Next time, confront them and tell them not to be jealous, they can achieve it. If it's fellow black women direct them to the below websites. It's sad but you may never be able to convince some people. They have so much hatred or self hatred in them about being African and part African. They will forever believe you must have that ';good hair';. Oh and don't even put up with people putting their hands in your head. That is beyond rude. And honestly some people are just trying to make you feel ashamed becuase it might be weave. Long hair and racial superiority has become tied up in people's minds and many people want to pick on weave on Black women, knowing it is a sore spot for some people.For black girls/women with long hair,do u get offended if ...?
I have waist length hair that I rarely wear out for a lot of reasons, one is because I can get unwanted attention, there was even a hair dresser a little over a year ago that chopped about five inches off mainly due to pure envy.
Try having long locs. It's a nightmare.

I had to stop a little white kid at a baseball game and I turned around to look at his parents and said 'I'm sorry-when did I become a petting zoo?'

They had the grace to look embarassed.
Red or yellow, black or white doesn't matter. This happens regardless of color and it doesn't have to be hair. Too many people walk up and touch babies without the mother's permission. Sometimes it is a pregnant woman's belly. No one should touch another or even get in their space without permission.
omg. the same thing happens to me. when back in high school the girls would run their fingers through my hair during a lesson. i would be writing on my notebook and i'd feel fingers on my scalp.

it is disturbing.

if i told them to stop they would pull at my hair really hard.

it is really annoying. since i have curly hair. they would ruin all my curls.

by the end of the day my hair looked like a birds' nest.

when i straightened my hair it was worse. so i stopped straightening because it was just many hands on my hair.